This may be a personal question but do you know where I could find information on post-transition trans sexual experiences? I don't think it's okay to ask you personally about your life simply because you're trans but I've tried searching for this type of information and I couldn't find much. If you know of any useful links that'd be appreciated. As a trans man I worry about what those types of experiences will be like if I choose to pick bottom surgery and there's a big lack of info on it
I wouldn’t consider it too personal, and would be more than willing to answer from experience… however I have no experience with bottom surgery, as I’ve never had it and have no intention on having it. For me, personally, I don’t believe the procedures are advanced enough and have a success rate high enough for the benefits to outweigh the risks and potential complications.
If I was ever going to consider a bottom surgery procedure, it would probably only be a Pre-Meta to get a bit more length, and that is it. However, I was pretty lucky with the growth that I have had so I don’t see myself personally ever desiring or needing any type of bottom surgery.
That being said, since I’ve made that decision I don’t have much advice or information to offer, just because post bottom-surgery sexual experiences aren’t something I relate with. I’ll give you some links that might have some information on the sexual aspects of the different procedures (ie. Phalloplasty vs. Metoidioplasty vs. Pre-Meta).
All of those articles have links out to other resources as well, and links out to blogs and photos of men who have had the surgeries, so maybe you could contact some of them, or find their experiences on their blogs?
I’d also recommend checking out the book Hung Jury: Testimonies of Genital Surgery by Transsexual Men. I’ve never personally read it myself (though, I would be interesting in reading at some point) but I have heard very good things about it and that the essays and stories are really phenomenal, also more to your point, the description of the book includes:
“Hung Jury concludes with essays from five partners and spouses who share their reflections of loving men who have had FTM bottom surgery. Often overlooked in trans studies, SOFFAs will appreciate these important stories.”
Not sure how extensive those essays are, but sounds like that information is along the lines of what you are looking for.
Sorry I couldn’t be of more help, but hopefully those links or the book can open avenues to getting more information on what you are looking for!
Um. I would say 21 is probably the youngest I would consider. But, whether they are younger or older, I am much more interested in their mental/emotional age than I am there actual physical age. Trust me, I’ve dated girls my age and older who act like they are still in high school… and the place where I am in my life, I’m not looking for that in a partner. So it’s definitely more about the person’s mental age and how they present themselves and view the world, than their physical age.
I’m a guy… the wind blowing sexually turns me on. (That’s a joke, it really doesn’t in case you were concerned.)
But nah, you can’t give out that info! Where is the fun in that? Realistically though, for me, they tend to differ from partner to partner - so I don’t really “disclose my turn-ons” cause I wouldn’t want someone doing something just because they know it will turn me on, I’d rather take the time to discover our mutual turn-ons.
11. Turn ons? Generally speaking, and not sexually speaking? Intelligence, a beautiful smile, kindness, someone with a positive attitude and outlook on life, and who is passionate and compassionate.
12. Turn offs? Generally speaking, and not sexually speaking? A negative attitude, someone who is very self-consumed, someone who puts emphasis on their looks above everything else, racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, people who look down on others, people with no drive or ambition or desire to better themselves or their lives.
16. Did the one person who hurt you most in your life apologize? No, she most certainly did not.
31. Whats your zodiac sign? Leo
32. When was the last time you had sex? About six months ago, I think.
33. Name five facts about yourself. - I work as an Art Director for a Marketing and Advertising Agency. - If I could stay on a beach 24/7 I would. - I’m a strong believer that the 90s had the best music, and the best comedy films. - I am petrified of needles. - I hate amusement parks.
3. Would you kiss the last person you kissed again? Absolutely.
5. How are you feeling RIGHT now? Pretty shit, it was a really hard afternoon and now I’m just hanging around alone in my apartment trying to regain mental and emotional composure (hence why posting a meme on a Saturday night for the distraction).
8. Tell me about the last dream you remember having? I honestly don’t remember a dream I can tell you about, haha. I don’t dream often, or at least I don’t remember my dreams often.
15. If you could be a superhero, who would you want to be? Superman. Hands down.
18. Favorite movie ever? Ever… Oh, I have so many! I’m going to take a cop-out and say it’s a tie between Home Room, and Closer.
23. How many countries have you visited? Only 3, hoping to increase that number eventually! Outside of the US, I have been to Aruba, Jamaica, and the Bahamas.
34. Ever had a near death experience? If so, what happened? Well, how near death is up to interpretation. However, I was in the Outer Banks, NC where my family vacationed for a week every summer for a couple of years. I was trying to teach my girlfriend (at the time) to surf. She wasn’t really listening to me and we got sucked out into an extremely strong rip tide. Normally in that situation you are supposed to just ride it out (even though most of them are miles long), but she began freaking out and was not listening to reason and it was just a very bad situation. The coast guard finally got out to us (after another surfer tried to at least get her for me, but even he couldn’t reach us and ended up back on shore throwing up because he was so exhausted from trying to battle it). However, if we did not have our surf boards… there is no doubt in my mind we would have drowned.
54. Do you believe in ghosts, werewolves or vampires? (Previously Answered) No.
Thank you for participating! You always do, and I do recognize that, and sincerely appreciate it!
47. What was your best experience on drugs or alcohol? I’ve never done drugs, so I have no experiences with that. With alcohol? Man, I have no idea. I really only drink alcohol for the taste - so I don’t know, sitting on my couch watching Mob Wives? Haha, I don’t know.
48. What was your worst experience on drugs or alcohol? The spins when you go to bed, and then waking up the next morning with the sun shining directly in your face but not feeling capable of getting out of bed to shut the damn shades.
53. How old were you when you lost your virginity? 14, I believe.
54. Do you believe in ghosts, werewolves or vampires? No.
55. If you could live forever, would you want to? No, probably not.
56. Which fictional movie character most resembles who you are?(Previously Answered) Movie character… hmm… Riddick! No, I’m just kidding. Maybe in my dreams. Realistically I would say Tim from one of my new favorite movies About Time.
57. If you could go back in time, which time period would you visit? (Previously Answered) 1950s, because I wish I was a greaser in Grease.
10. What are you craving right now? A Jack Daniels & Coke… though, I’m trying to fight the urge to begin drinking alone this early.
13. What comes to mind when I say cabbage? The vegetable… and when my Dad makes Corn Beef and Cabbage and I hate the smell of it.
36. Brown or white eggs? I usually buy brown, but really doesn’t matter to me.
56. Which fictional movie character most resembles who you are? Movie character… hmm… Riddick! No, I’m just kidding. Maybe in my dreams. Realistically I would say Tim from one of my new favorite movies About Time.
57. If you could go back in time, which time period would you visit? 1950s, because I wish I was a greaser in Grease.
43. Whom do you admire and why? I would say Viktor E. Frankl, as his book “Man’s Search for Meaning: An Introduction to Logotherapy” (which chronicles his experiences in the concentration camps, and is an introduction to the practice of Logotherapy) was one of the first books that really spoke to me and I feel was partly responsible for the way I was able to take control of my life, my anxiety and depression, my transition, and my happiness. Frankl was a Holocaust survivor, who then went on to become the founder of Logotherapy, which is a form of existential analysis that is focused upon the belief that striving to find meaning in one’s life is the most powerful, and driving force in a human being.
"To live is to suffer, to survive is to find meaning in the suffering. If there is a purpose in life at all, there must be a purpose in suffering and in dying. But no man can tell another what his purpose is. Each must find out for himself, and must accept the responsibility that his answer prescribes." - Viktor E. Frankl, “Man’s Search for Meaning: An Introduction to Logotherapy”
44. What was your favorite bedtime story as a child? "Bushbaby" by Adrienne Kennaway, and "The Lorax" by Dr. Seuss.
45. You’re walking down the street, you come across a burning building. A woman says her baby is trapped inside, what would you do? Depends, if the fire department was already there I would do my best to calm her down and console her that the firemen would do everything they can to get her baby out safely. If the fire department wasn’t there, I’d probably be that heroic idiot who takes it upon himself to run in and try to save the baby… I have a very protective nature about me, so I feel those instincts would kick in.